10 Reasons Why People Spend Too Much

Do you truly live within your means? What drives us to spend too much? An interesting article on behavioral economics:

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Article from Pyschology Today Author, Shahram Heshmat Ph.D. :

"Many Americans live beyond their means. The recent CFPB survey found that about one-third of people ages 30 to 49 had more credit card debt than savings (CFPB, 2017). What drives us to spend too much? Behavioral economics provides some insights as to why we go over budget and how to curb the impulse." ... Keep Reading: https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/science-choice/201801/10-reasons-why-people-spend-too-much

 

 

Go Where It’s Green: A New Year’s Resolution You Can Keep

Many of us focus on some classic New Year’s resolutions: eating healthier, getting in shape, etc.

What about mental health? Start small - like spending more time in green spaces and natural settings.

Want even more meaningful change this year? Let's talk. Message me today.

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From Psychology Today Author, Constance Scharff Ph.D.:

"One of the problems with New Year’s resolutions is that most of us who make them aim too high. After at least a week of merry-making, starting with events before Christmas and culminating with New Year’s Day binges of sports and food, we suddenly expect ourselves to turn our lives around. We vow to go to the gym five days a week or switch to a paleo diet. We want to lose fifty or a hundred pounds and get in shape for summer. The reality, however, is that these changes are too drastic for us to be successful. Instead of expecting radical change in an instant, why not focus on smaller changes that can create big differences in our lives?" ... Continue Reading: https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/ending-addiction-good/201801/go-where-it-s-green-new-year-s-resolution-you-can-keep

 

Two Magic Words that Keep Relationships Together

Harriet Lerner Ph.D. discusses how apologizing can keep marriages, friendships, and families from falling apart.


“An apology, like a nail, is a seemingly small yet vital tool. Without it, things fall apart.

In my work as a psychologist, I see marriages fail and family members stop speaking to one another because someone will not apologize, or the apology is offered in a way that only deepens the injury rather than widening the path for forgiveness and reconciliation.

Even good relationships suffer quietly beneath the surface when a hurt or insult goes unrepaired. For the want of a heartfelt apology, a kingdom of trust and affection may be lost…” Read more: https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/the-dance-connection/201710/two-magic-words-keep-relationships-together

 

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Are You Conflict Avoidant or Conflict Seeking?

F. Diane Barth L.C.S.W, Psychology Today contributor, sheds some light on whether it's better to seek out or avoid conflict.


"Parents of a two and a half year old cannot agree on how to handle his newly developing temper tantrums. The mother wants to give him a time out to help him calm down. The father cannot bear for the boy to be upset and wants to give let him have whatever he is demanding. “I know it’s wrong,” says the dad. “But I have this feeling ‘he’s just a little kid. He wants it so badly. Why can’t we give it to him?’”

A manager has to discipline a member of her team. “I really hate it,” she says. “I did everything I could to get out of it. And when my boss made it clear that I didn’t have a choice, I started finding excuses to be out of the office or away from my desk when the guy I have to talk to was around..." Read on: https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/the-couch/201710/are-you-conflict-avoidant-or-conflict-seeking

 

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ABC 7 Segment "Looking for Love on the Suncoast" Featuring Advice from Robert Bakst

... "Just go places that make you happy, deal with things that make you happy, and surround yourself with people that make you happy and only good things come from it," said David Ford-Coates. 

Pyschotherapist Robert Bakst says there’s some truth to that idea.

"In terms of meeting people, I think it’s a good idea to pursue your passions, interests and hobbies," said Bakst. "I think that’s a more natural way of meeting people."

Pew Research reports only 5 percent of Americans who are in a marriage or committed relationship met online. The other 95 percent met without the help of a dating site.

"It’s important to be out there and to do something different," said Bakst. "If it means being at a supermarket and going up to someone you don’t know and talking to them. I mean, nothing ventured nothing gained."

For the full story: http://www.mysuncoast.com/news/looking-for-love-on-the-suncoast-the-experts-lend-their/article_1f40a3a4-f313-11e6-a60f-af5076fd4d70.html

Excerpt from Stewart Emery's "You Don't Have to Rehearse to Be Yourself"

“Life is a spiritual discipline.  And we all live in an ashram that supports our spiritual growth.  The name of the ashram is planet Earth.  You cannot get off the path you are on, because the path is not narrow, it is spherical, it includes the whole planet.  Anywhere you put your foot is where your path is.  Even the idea that you are not on the path is part of the path.

Whatever is next for you, whatever you are struggling with right now, is the key to your liberation.  Don’t resist your experience.  Whatever it is, embrace it.”

Stewart Emery, You Don't Have to Rehearse to Be Yourself

Learn More: http://www.stewartemery.com/you-dont-have-to-rehearse-to-be-yourself/

Excerpt from Laura Huxley's "You Are Not the Target"

“At one time or another the more fortunate among us make three startling discoveries.

Discovery number one: Each one of us has, in varying degree, the power to make himself and others feel better or worse.

Discovery number two: Making others feel better is much more rewarding than making them feel worse.

Discovery number three: Making others feel better generally makes us feel better.

This is true of everyone, even of one who thinks himself as of no importance, no consequence at all. After an attentive, honest examination, this person will realize that every day, often many times a day, he can choose to be a giver of pain or of pleasure. Regardless of individual differences we all have this built-in ability. You will notice how this ability increases by using it. You will realize more and more how important you are as a contributor to the sum total of suffering or happiness.

Another point has been emphasized in this book: that each one of us has a fund of creative potential - either we use it creatively or, it will boomerang destructively upon ourselves and others.”

 -Laura Huxley, You Are Not the Target

Learn More:  http://www.laurahuxley.com/quotes.html

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