The Anxieties of Introversion

Many introverts suffer unknowingly from anxiety. Please read this interesting article on internalizing negative messages about introversion and then let’s talk. No matter how extroverted or introverted you may be, there is no need to suffer with anxiety or depression.

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From Pyschology Today Author, Sophia Dembling:

“…Are you an anxious introvert? I suspect many of us are. 

I don’t suggest that introversion automatically leads to anxiety, nor do I mean to downplay anxiety disorders. I know anxiety is a real and serious condition that can’t be solved with facile advice.

But I do believe that some of the garden-variety anxiety introverts suffer comes from internalizing negative messages we have received our whole lives about introversion. In other words, our anxiety is manufactured by a reaction between external and internal forces.

Some to consider:

1. We feel like we’re doing it “wrong.” 

There are all kinds of messages out there telling us that an extroverted approach to life is “better,” “healthier,” or “more productive” than our introverted ways. We’re told that if we don’t work the room at a party, we’re doing it “wrong”; that if we don’t get out there and network hard, we will “fail”; and that if we spend too much time in our heads, we are “depressed.”

Even when we know, intellectually, that these messages are mostly misguided,** it’s hard not to take them in at an almost cellular level. They’ve come at us our entire life—and the introvert-positive movement, with messages countering them, is pretty new.

The solution is to consciously and frequently push back on these messages in our own minds. I recently attended a party (and had to talk myself into going the entire drive there!) where I did a terrible job meeting most of the many cool people who were there. However, I did a great job at partying introvert style. I had two in-depth conversations, resulting in two new Facebook friends—and as far as I’m concerned, that’s a win. So I remind myself of that over and over to reinforce the information. We can define success for ourselves, then we must reprogram ourselves to believe it.

2. We offend people just by being ourselves. 

I shared my last post, about being sick and yet overwhelmed by the interest and concern of others, on a Facebook support group for my disease …” Continue Reading: https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/the-introverts-corner/201908/the-anxieties-introversion