Are You Conflict Avoidant or Conflict Seeking?

F. Diane Barth L.C.S.W, Psychology Today contributor, sheds some light on whether it's better to seek out or avoid conflict.

"Parents of a two and a half year old cannot agree on how to handle his newly developing temper tantrums. The mother wants to give him a time out to help him calm down. The father cannot bear for the boy to be upset and wants to give let him have whatever he is demanding. “I know it’s wrong,” says the dad. “But I have this feeling ‘he’s just a little kid. He wants it so badly. Why can’t we give it to him?’”

A manager has to discipline a member of her team. “I really hate it,” she says. “I did everything I could to get out of it. And when my boss made it clear that I didn’t have a choice, I started finding excuses to be out of the office or away from my desk when the guy I have to talk to was around..." Read on: