Grief manifests in many ways including loneliness and anxiety. Whether your loss is recent or not, you shouldn’t have to process it alone. If anything in this article sounds familiar to you, or you just need someone to listen to your own grief experience, let’s talk.
A few scientifically based tips that may help your relationship thrive. If you have concerns about your relationship or marriage, I hope these ideas are helpful but to take a true step forward, relationship therapy can be extremely beneficial. Let’s talk.
From Pyschology Today Author, Amie M. Gordon, Ph.D.:
“For years, psychologists tried to understand why relationships fail. They targeted dysfunction, focusing on factors like negative emotions and bad communication. But it turns out that not failing is not the same as succeeding when it comes to relationships. Couples who experience a lot of negative interactions are more likely to divorce in the first few years of marriage, but couples who don't experience a lot of positive affect are likely to divorce farther down the road. So how can we make sure our relationships thrive? Today, I'm going to pass along four scientifically-based tips on how to keep your relationship alive.
1. Laugh and play together. Play isn't just for kids. Playfully teasing your partner can bring you closer together (remember, the key is to tease "playfully"!). Couples who laugh more are more satisfied in their relationships. Humor and laughter also seem to have a buffering effect - using humor during conflict can help you resolve the issue. So pick a comedy the next time you're choosing a movie for date night, come up with playful nicknames, and the next time that your partner says something that bothers you, try responding with a joke instead of getting defensive.
2. Try new things together. …” Continue Reading: https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/between-you-and-me/201204/four-ways-keep-your-relationship-alive
The holidays are frequently a time for high emotions which can trigger anxiety, stress and even depression. Please browse the article below and note that most people do nothing to reduce stress during the holidays and instead suffer in silence. Depression at anytime is not okay, let’s talk.
“Christmas season is a busy time of the year and what should be a time for love and joy many has turned into a hectic period of stress, splurge, expense, and a cornucopia of attending activities that must be endured even though they are rarely looked forward to.
There’s shopping to be done, menus to be planned, cooking and baking to be finished before hordes of people arrive. Then there’s the never-ending scores of presents to be decided on, purchased, wrapped, and placed under the tree.
Black Friday has just happened, and many are still recovering from the exhausting stress that follows the activity.
Most distressing of all is the fact that Christmas has become the epidemic of commercialism and stress it now is – not because we want it to be – but because we have been conditioned into thinking so many of the “things” we feel must do are necessary to make Christmas merry for those we love!
What should Christmas be?
Christmas has become a time of both emotional stress and financial stress.
A survey done by NBC News in November 2012 revealed that a staggering 45% of Americans would prefer to skip Christmas because it causes so much financial pressure and anxiety.
In a similar survey, 54% of people said they planned to spend $500 or less on Christmas while another 27% said they planned to spend somewhere between $500 to $1000 on Christmas presents.
Time Management stress
Christmas tends to cause ‘time management stress’ as well as wallet stress simply because there are so many things we want to get done, yet time is limited to do them …” Continue Reading: https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/under-extreme-circumstances/201812/lets-unplug-the-christmas-machine
From Pyschology Today Author, Arash Emamzadeh:
"Recent research by Robinson and Lachman of Brandeis University shows that higher perception of control results in greater cognitive performance, and that this is mediated through physical activity.
Perceived control refers to an individual’s perception of her ability to bring about desired outcomes and prevent undesirable ones.
For example, an employee who believes that working hard would soon result in recognition and advancement, has high perceived control; if, on the other hand, she believes that despite working hard she might get fired any day and that as a result she will be unemployed for a very long time, she has a comparably lower sense of control.
High perceived control is associated better health, wealth, wisdom, life satisfaction, optimism, cognitive performance (e.g., better memory or ability to pursue goals), and lower levels of depression and less functional limitations; people with lower income and those in lower social positions typically have a lower sense of control over their lives, though ones who nevertheless maintain high levels of perceived control appear to have similar health status as individuals with higher income.2
The relationship between perceived control and various outcomes, however, appears to be reciprocal and cyclic.1
For instance, an employee who believes that she may get fired any day, is more likely to experience stress, anxiety, and memory problems. These mental and emotional difficulties would then affect her efforts, motivation, and her use of strategies at work. And given that she is feeling less motivated and puts in less effort, there is a higher chance that she will face disciplinary action, and as a result perhaps feel even less in control at work.
But the same cycle can also start from a different point, such as with health problems.
Take health problems and aging. A large portion of older people have health or memory difficulties and thus potentially feel less in control of their lives.
But these control related beliefs can also influence their work life, such that they begin to feel less capable and effective at work, which of course results in anxiety, depression, and putting in less effort at work....
The present research
In the present study, Robinson and Lachman were interested to find whether changes in perceived control could predict changes in cognitive performance, and if so, via what mechanisms" ... CONTINUE READING: https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/finding-new-home/201807/the-benefits-feeling-in-control-we-age
From Pyschology Today Author, Caren Osten:
" ... Chances are you’ve savored the wafting aroma of coffee brewing. Or a breathtaking glow of pink and orange hues during a sunset. Or the melody of a song so amazing that you need to close your eyes to take it all in?
Savoring is not a new idea, and its origins date back to ancient times when savoring—or fully appreciating a taste, smell, or sight, for example—was considered wise. More recent research supports this notion and reaches further, revealing that savoring positive emotions is a strategy that can optimize your health and well-being. More specifically, the benefits of savoring include stronger relationships, improved mental and physical health, and increased creativity in solving problems.
In today’s busy world, however, we are pulled in so many directions that we often forget or forego the savoring—we simply have too many emails to respond to and tweets to read, among a million other things. The good news is that savoring positive experiences can be learned, like playing the piano, and if you practice, you’ll improve. So take a deep breath, slow down and open up to your positive experiences by stopping to savor the moment. Savoring not only cultivates positive emotions in the present, but also builds resources for coping—connecting us to moments in the past, present or imagined future that give us an emotional boost when we are in need.
Strategies to Help You Savor
1. Share Your Experience
Calling attention to an experience as it’s happening is an invitation to others to participate in it with you—making it an opportunity to savor, increase connection, and deepen relationships. During a recent yoga ..." Continue Reading: https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/the-right-balance/201806/how-savoring-will-save-you-missing-out
Article from Psychology Today Author, Kristen Fuller, M.D.:
"Approximately one in five adults in the United States, 43.8 million, or 18.5%, experiences a mental illness in a given year and approximately one in five youth aged 13–18 (21.4%) experiences a severe mental health disorder at some point during their lifetime. Mental illness is not prejudiced; as mental health disorders affect men and women of all ages, races and social classes. Since 1949, the month of May has been observed as Mental Health Month in the United States and many national organizations such as NAMI, Mental Health America, and other affiliates spotlight Mental Health Month to raise awareness about the importance of mental health and to stop the stigma associated with mental health disorders. The theme for this year’s Mental Health Month is Fitness #4Mind4Body, meaning that health is an all-encompassing matter and we must take care of our minds just as much as we take care of our bodies. Mental health is important for our physical health and vice versa. A well-balanced diet, a healthy sleep schedule, exercise, gut health, and hydration all affect our mental health and our physical health equally. Studies have shown that individuals who have chronic medical illnesses such as diabetes, high blood pressure or autoimmune disorders have a higher likelihood of being diagnosed with a mental health disorder such as depression or anxiety. Our bodies and mind act as one unit and therefore it is important to care for both our emotional and mental states as well as our physical health." Continue Reading: https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/happiness-is-state-mind/201805/may-is-mental-health-month-4mind4body
Interesting article and reminder that loss and grieving are a process and everyone copes differently, don't do it alone ... if you are grieving whether it be the loss of a loved one, a relationship or something else entirely let's talk (941) 376-6834.
Article from Psychology Today Author, John D. Rich, Jr., Ph.D.:
"... If you are grieving, don't worry about any of that. The grief process plays out differently for everyone. Grieving is the interplay between the desire to pay homage to the deceased and the need to move forward and be grateful for the life you still have in front of you, and for the lives of those you love, who are still here. My father may not be here any longer but my mother and brother are. My wife is still alive, and so are our two incredible children. My father will still be there, in my memory, forming me into this person I am becoming. For now, I still have people I can call, who I can see and hear and smell and touch. So do you ... Read full article: https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/parenting-purpose/201804/grieving-loss-and-embracing-the-future
Interesting article regarding modern stress ... take the first step to feeling better and let's talk (941) 376-6834.
Article from Psychology Today: A Conversation with Dr. Janice Kiecolt-Glaser, Ph.D.
Social Brain Blog: What is the current brain health-based thinking about how best to recover from stress?
JKG: There’s evidence showing that mindfulness meditation, yoga, or similar practices can decrease responses to stress. In addition, health behaviors matter so much in terms of managing stress. When people are stressed they tend not to sleep, and being short on sleep is itself very stressful. They tend to eat more poorly, and that can exacerbate mood and make people feel worse. You know, cupcakes are really appealing when you’re stressed but you generally don’t feel better after you eat them—even though the process is fun...
Another thing we really know is that social relationships and close personal relationships are so important and so connected to our health. One meta-analysis suggested that being socially isolated was the equivalent of smoking in terms of health risk. And when we’re stressed we tend to isolate ourselves, and that’s the very time when social relationships matter most. Part of the recovery process involves talking with people, being with people you care about and who care about you, and being able to talk about what you’re feeling and what you’re going through.
SBB: Stress is now supposedly an epidemic, but it’s always been around. So what’s changed? Is there actually more stress, or are we just more aware of stress? ... Continue Reading: https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/the-social-brain/201804/why-we-are-stressed-out-and-what-do-about-it
Interesting article and reminder that addiction takes many forms and can affect anyone ... if you are dealing with addiction call me today (941) 376-6834.
Article from Psychology Today Author, Christopher Bergland:
"Contrary to popular belief, Anderson has found that even those without a history of addiction can quickly develop attentional biases that mimic addictive behavior. After undergoing classical conditioning between stimuli and a drug-free reward, participants who identified as nonaddicts responded to cues in ways that would equate to relapse for a drug addict. To some degree, everyone’s brain appears to be “wired” for addiction—and we all have the capacity to become an addict." ... Continue Reading: https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/the-athletes-way/201608/neuroscience-suggests-were-all-wired-addiction